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Did you know that I really wanted to be a sexologist? I haven't got the fine-prints of this career path jotted down yet, but I definitely still have it tightly held in my left palm. I took two classes (90hours) on human sexuality, did my weekly readings religiously, researched whatever got me curious and got so excited (no pun intended) about the content that I figured I had to calm down to see if the interest persisted past the courses I took, before I committed to it.  It did, but I decided to explore it in a different capacity (at least for now). So the dream is still very much alive. A little part of me knows that although it's been decades since Masters' and Johnson's  ground breaking work on human sexuality, my experience would still be very much like theirs.  We might pride ourselves in being those born into sexual revolution, but still, we're very much prudish in our discussions (or lack of discussions) around sex. The word "sex" itself is sti

Guess who recently graduated?! 🙋🙋 I did! It's still not feeling real. Well, it's been almost a month since I wrote this post, so I guess some of the feelings might be outdated. I've gone from being really excited, to being an emotional wreck, and to many points in-between those two. Nonetheless, glory be to God without whom nothing would be possible! I'd say, I'm learning the whole process of trusting God! It's no walk in the park I tell you. I could do an entire rantisode (episode of pure rants) about that, but I'll spare you. Actually, I won't. #Classof2015 For the most part of the year it's been incredibly difficult to do life. If you know me you'd probably find that a little weird, because I'd consider my self a care-free, life-loving person. Still, it's been difficult to be authentically me. It's just been hard to be happy being myself...if that makes any sense. It was difficult not to compare myself with my friends who

 Even better than the post below, is this awesome post I found on reviveourhearts.com. You can totally skip mine and read this instead... it's that good : Sexual Desire and the Single Girl (10 Tips for Purity) A few things to do if you're horny, but you're not quite into flicking the bean, or for dudes, spanking the money. We win this one guys, flicking the bean sounds way cooler. It would amaze you the amount of times I've googled such advice as I now give, as an experienced , hmm, what's my title, Self-Controller. That made more sense in my head. Rarely did I ever find a solution that made sense from a Christian point of view....or that I actually felt like implementing.  So in the paragraphs that follow, I'll be sharing some of my finds. 1) Not all of us like to run or do the physical exercise stuff that most blogs on this topic prescribe, but if it's your cup of tea, I guess you should go ahead and do this. You will certainly either feel the high

I don’t know if it’s too many classes in sociology of religion, human sexuality, and the likes of these that have made my opinions significantly different from friends with whom I share other opinions. But since I am yet to find a ground comfortable enough for my Jesus loving self and freedom of expression celebrating side to stand, I write. One of our pastors was /is pretty furious at the recent changes to Ontario’s sex education laws. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, let’s take a moment to update you . When it finally loads, please scroll down to view the juice of it. Now that you get the idea, my question to my friends has been what makes this wrong from a non-Christian POV? Given that the entire population is not Christian, why would you expect the laws not to favor the non-Christians as well? If you absolutely detest homosexuality as a religious command and have a religious responsibility to train up your child in the way of God, I expect that you would teach y

Hey guys! I officially have one semester left till the end of undergrad. It's so exciting! There's the realization that life really is happening. Not that it hasn't been happening all this while, but the parts of my life that I am really accountable for are about to begin. Ehm, that explanation doesn't really help. What I'm trying to say is, before now, I pretty much had to go to a preselected high school, then I moved to a country selected by my parents, my university and initial program studied even weren't entirely my decisions! So yeah, now I'm becoming more actively involved in the path my life will take. Lol strike that. I'm fighting to choose how my life goes. There's still the fear from family and friends on what life path is most secure (financially) and there's the reality that so many people end up loving jobs they never really thought they'd want. Anyway, I  have been hooked to this really awesome show . It's great becaus

I wrote this piece on last year's "Live it loud " experience, and all I could say was that it was an amazing experience! I couldn't exactly express how I felt about it, but I knew it was great. I've had a year to think about why that was, and here's what I've come up with:   It had been so long since I had heard doctrine that sound and for that amount of time (almost 4 days of non-stop goodness!) oh my goodness!  I like to think of myself as a turn down kind of person, but it turned out that all I needed was my kind of turn up; live it loud provided that and more.  It was a road trip and mini vacation in one! Those are two of my favorite things.  I think amidst all that excitement, I ate the word but somehow didn't digest it. So I tasted it, knew that it was great, but it didn't do much to my body. So it ended there and I couldn't even point to what I remembered from the whole conference.  This is so easy to do you know? In the excitem

As written on 15/01/2014 (Re-published on 17/09/2015): After a really interesting human sexuality lecture, I wrote this post as a teenager who asked his parents what sex was like when they were growing up. Most of the words are written the way I understood what my prof was saying, please feel free to 'comment' any modification to this. Because someone read this post and had a very strong and unanticipated negative reaction to it, here's my disclaimer: I found this to be an interesting historical bit, it's from some time in the 60s (I think). I viewed it as an educational and historical reading. I am quite comfortable talking about unconventional topics. There was no spirit guiding me to see the words as something to apply to my life, as the Holy Spirit does  when a Christian reads the Bible. The post is really not that deep, but if sex behaviours across cultures isn't your topic, feel  free to skip this and browse through the rest of my blog. Even though I'v

Last time I wrote  a piece  on anything godly, I was referencing someone that performed at a Christian event and then went on to promote free alcohol for a party less than 7 days after. It was convenient. He fit into my story just perfectly. But guess who has sinned so many times after that write-up? That's right, it was yours sincerely. After the verdict on the Zimmerman case came, I just sat down to reflect on it and my life. I wondered about Travyon Martin's life and whether or not he was a believer. His death meant he got the easy way out of this life and as terrible a choice as it was, there is still a possibility he just went from the proverbial frying pan into the fire! If this guy wasn't a Christian he pretty much died in vain, went to hell and even his killer went free.  I am still alive, I am seeing chaos unfold on the web and on CNN, but most of all I am wondering how many times I have been delivered from sin and still crawled back to embrace

I've had a lot of amazing weekends in the little while I've spent on earth, but there's one I won't be forgetting anytime soon; it was the weekend of Live it Loud 2013 - RCCG Canada's young adult and singles conference with the theme "In His Presence". There really is something amazing about God's presence. I was going to write something similar to this after  this year's RCCG general convention that William McDowell performed at in Mississauga, but I somehow didn't get to it. I guess this is how it feels to be in an inexplicable high! Yes for all 3 days of the conference; it was that fantastic! The sermons were on for quite a while during some sessions- I'm talking about over 3 hours, which in young adult language is almost equal to a few decades few years- but still, we were in no rush to leave! It was the perfect mix of soul-soothing music, Christian theology, comedy and gospel at every single session! For  chocaholics  like me, yo