Fope's Blog

It's not like I plan to post new blogposts on Tuesdays, Tuesday just happens to be the day that I don't plan much for. So here I am, on another Tuesday afternoon. Since my blog got a new look last week, I've been playing around with its structure. I've been trying to re-categorize posts to figure out exactly what the blog is about. I really want it to be about one thing, but there's no single thing that keeps me up at night- there are however a few things I love. I know that once I'm comfortable, I could talk about a topic forever. I also love sharing new knowledge! Oh and food and travel are my boos! Jesus is king in my life and I'm learning to love Him more, so I sometimes share about that. Anyway, if you clicked on this post, you're probably looking to really learn what is new with me. I'm travelling to Nigeria for almost three months. I'm kind of excited. I was very excited, but there were so many killjoys reminding me of the sketchy secu

I was sitting in my bed this morning and I imagined that I was already in grad school, far away from home. I was opening my door to receive a bouquet delivery from my anonymous lover. It was the second week of non-stop daily flowers, and the initial giddiness was giving way to slight panic at the possibility that I might have a stalker. It's probably the Nigerian in me. One does not simply forget that the village enemies may still be "on top your matter" aka, interested in disturbing your life. So I text the friend that I always text when things get weird in my life. Bless your heart B for always listening to my tales! She texts me back instantly saying I need to live in the moment and enjoy my flowers, as I was probably being courted old school style. "Girl, the  chase is on! Enjoy it!", she said.  As amused as I wanted to be, the sender was still anonymous, and the over-thinker in me was repeatedly doing drills of all the 'potential baes'

Did you know that I really wanted to be a sexologist? I haven't got the fine-prints of this career path jotted down yet, but I definitely still have it tightly held in my left palm. I took two classes (90hours) on human sexuality, did my weekly readings religiously, researched whatever got me curious and got so excited (no pun intended) about the content that I figured I had to calm down to see if the interest persisted past the courses I took, before I committed to it.  It did, but I decided to explore it in a different capacity (at least for now). So the dream is still very much alive. A little part of me knows that although it's been decades since Masters' and Johnson's  ground breaking work on human sexuality, my experience would still be very much like theirs.  We might pride ourselves in being those born into sexual revolution, but still, we're very much prudish in our discussions (or lack of discussions) around sex. The word "sex" itself is sti

I've been MIA ! I'm sorry😔. It's because the party has been happening on Snapchat. Yup! I've been so so random on there that blogging hasn't been top on my list. Blogging has been my space to just do my thing, and it just so happens that Snapchat lets me do that without the countless edits and rewrites.  It's kinda like vlogging and /or my life in pictures. And if I screw up a little, it's gone in 24 hours (well, it's gone until some super tech savvy people go digging). So I love it! And I should totally have invented Snapchat 😕. I still love my blog's peace and quiet and will definitely be back soon. There's also the bit that I'm likely to be without consistent internet for two or three months, and I'm certain that whenever I do find internet, it will to be splurged on posting a picture. So just so you're not left out, here's where the party's at: join in... Or don't😜!